Single parenting is becoming very common not just because of divorce or death of a spouse, but more recently out of choice. Being part of a team of two, who try our utmost to raise our daughters, I find it difficult to even fathom how challenging it must be to do it all on your own.
In a recent interview the American Psychological Association had with parenting expert Alan Kazdin (PhD) he explained that spanking is not an effective discipline strategy to use.
Burnout, I think, is a result of unrealistic expectations we set for ourselves, constant self-criticism if we do not meet those expectations, feelings of not getting acknowledged for what we put into parenting and taking on too many responsibilities because of thinking it will make us better mothers. These negative thoughts leads to a mom being in a constant state of exhaustion physically, mentally and spiritually. It leads to a loss of enthusiasm, energy, idealism, perspective and purpose. We end up where there are too many demands and way too little resources.
We have to teach our children to actively listen, because there is a difference between hearing and listening. Listening leads either to gathering information, understanding or enjoyment. Hearing does not necessarily lead to any action or response.
Every child – bully and victim have a right to be at school. The rights of the children do vary though in the sense that all children have a right to be educated and play in a safe environment. They have a right to experience a sense of community within the school, feel a sense of social value and feel that they are being listened to. The bully makes his victim feel small, weak, alone and useless. They do not treat their victims with dignity and respect that they deserve, therefore stripping them completely of their rights.